Meet Me on the Mat

Recently, a female listener of The Lost Boy Scouts podcast challenged me:

“You want to be ‘met on the mat.’”

It made me pause. Given our history, I knew what she meant—as if conflict was the only way I knew how to handle a disagreement.

I get it—if you don’t train in jiu-jitsu, that phrase probably sounds like an open invitation to throw hands. But that’s …